Why This Happened
Intermittent reinforcement.
Why can't I stop waiting for an avoidant man to text, even after everything?
A text here, a like there, timed right when you'd almost stopped waiting, and suddenly you're back in it. That's not weak willpower.
Unpredictable contact is what your nervous system was trained to wait for, the same wiring behind a slot machine pull.
Naming the pattern is the first step, calming the wait itself is the part that actually changes something.
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