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Conditioned to chaos, not love.
Why do I feel more pulled toward an avoidant man who drained me than someone stable?
If you're stuck in an anxious-avoidant loop, or can't stop thinking about someone who left you depleted, this is why: your nervous system was conditioned to chaos, not to love.
That's a pattern your body learned, not a reflection of what you actually want.
Breaking the pull is what lets you think clearly again.
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