About

HypnoBirthing brought me here.

How do you get from a labour ward to 12 million people watching your videos about avoidant men? I came to hypnotherapy through birth. I wanted to manage pain without medication. I had fibroids, which made that a bigger factor than it might have been. I trained in HypnoBirthing. It worked in ways I had not expected. Then I had my baby. The best period of my life. And my mind kept going elsewhere. Breastfeeding at two in the morning, holding the person I loved most, and my brain was catastrophising, comparing, spiralling somewhere completely disconnected from the moment I was actually in. I knew what was happening. I knew why. And I still could not stop it. I booked a hypnotherapy session. I listened to the audios. My mind came back. I knew then, not theoretically, what this can do. I knew it from the inside. At the hardest moment, it pulled me back. I trained in Cognitive-Behavioural Hypnotherapy. Not hypnotherapy alone, because I could already see that one approach on its own was not always enough. CBT reaches the thoughts. Hypnotherapy reaches underneath them. Research shows that combined, they produce significantly better outcomes than either approach separately. That is why I trained in both. Then I became aware of a pattern. A specific dynamic between women and men that I kept seeing cause the same damage. I went through it myself. I had the tools. I got out sooner than most, and I know exactly why. Everyone else in this space is talking about him. His patterns. His behaviour. I talk about what that dynamic has done to your nervous system. And what it actually takes to interrupt the loop. So many women around the world are going through this and thinking it is just how relationships are. Just difficult love. Just the price of caring about someone. It is not. What this dynamic does to your nervous system, to how you function, to your sense of yourself, is not normal. Women are recognising that now. That is why they are here. 12 million views later, the account is @dontsleepwithavoidantmen. The brand is Your Mind Story. Because this was never about him. It was always about finding your way back to yourself.