Break the cycle.
Take your life back.
For women caught in the pattern of an avoidant or inconsistent relationship, whether you're in it, out of it but still caught, or seeing the pattern start again.
You may understand the cycle.
But you're still stuck in it.
You're checking.
Replaying.
Waiting.
Second-guessing yourself.
Making decisions and then struggling to stick to them when something changes.
Your Mind Story is an online Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy practice focused on what this pattern is doing to you, so you can feel steadier, trust yourself again and start feeling like yourself again.
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“I still have the loop but it's not consuming me constantly.”
Kimberly
Understanding the pattern is not the same as changing your response to the pattern.
You can know why he pulls away. You can know you do not need to check again. You can know another conversation may not fix it. And then something happens and you are checking, replaying, waiting, researching, reaching out or questioning yourself all over again.
Knowing why he did it doesn't necessarily stop what it did to you.
That is the part we work on.
Knowing why he did it doesn't necessarily stop what it did to you.
I'm a Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapist, and Your Mind Story is my online Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy practice for women caught in painful patterns with avoidant or inconsistent partners.
I'd even read Attached before I met the person who introduced me to this pattern. I thought it was a good book. I actually gave him my copy.
And I still didn't recognise what I was in while I was inside it.
Reading about attachment gave me useful information. It didn't prepare me for what living inside that dynamic could actually feel like.
What is this doing to me?
What do I actually do about that?
Those are the questions at the centre of Your Mind Story.
Read my story →Four stages. One direction: back to you.
Quiet the Alarm
Work on the emotional and physical reaction so a trigger does not have to take the rest of your day with it.
Break the Pull
Practise experiencing the impulse without automatically checking, searching, messaging or following it.
Restore Self-Trust
Work on trusting what you know and standing by the decisions you make for yourself, even when your feelings change.
Return to Yourself
Bring your attention, plans, energy and ordinary life back towards you.
You do not have to be over him or decide what happens with the relationship before you can work on what this is doing to you.
Already know where you're stuck? Start there.
If you are not sure, take the free assessment and I will show you where I would start.
Return to Yourself
For when too much of your life and attention has started revolving around him.
Original Group 2026
12 weeks, all four stages, progress tracking and integrated live group sessions. Starts Sunday 4 October 2026.
Not sure?
Let your answers show where the pattern appears to be affecting you most and what I recommend you work on next.
We’re not just analysing the response. We’re practising another response.
The work is not about sitting there analysing him again. Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy gives us a way to practise a different response, using focused attention, imagery, suggestion and mental rehearsal alongside cognitive and behavioral techniques.
Knowing “I shouldn’t check” when you feel calm is one thing. Being able to choose when every part of you wants to check is another.
WHY THIS WORKSREAD WOMEN'S EXPERIENCESYou don't need to understand everything about him.
You don't need to have everything figured out.
And you don't need to decide the future of the relationship today.
You can start with the part you actually have access to.
You.
SHOP YOUR MIND STORYTAKE THE FREE ASSESSMENTQuestions women ask before they start
What actually is Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy?
It combines cognitive and behavioral therapeutic techniques with hypnosis. In this work, that means looking at thoughts and interpretations, practising different responses, and using focused attention, imagery and therapeutic suggestion as part of that practice.
What if I've never tried hypnotherapy?
You do not need prior experience. You are not asleep or handing control of your mind to somebody else. You participate in the process.
What if I still love him or want the relationship?
You do not have to be over him to start working on yourself. Working on your response is not a verdict on the relationship.
Are you going to tell me to leave or go no contact?
No. I do not make that relationship decision for you. The work focuses on what the situation is doing to you and the choices you want to be able to make for yourself.
I already understand avoidant attachment. How is this different?
Because understanding is not necessarily the part you are struggling with anymore. The work is aimed at the response that can still happen despite what you know.
How do I know where to start?
If one stage is obviously loud, you can buy it directly. If you are unsure, the free 15-question assessment gives you a personalised starting recommendation.