Break the cycle.
Take your life back.
For women caught in the pattern of an avoidant relationship: whether you're in it, out of it but still caught, or seeing the pattern start again.
You may understand the cycle.
But you're still stuck in it.
We work on the checking, replaying, waiting and second-guessing that keep you caught in it, so you can feel steadier, trust yourself again and feel like yourself again.
Learn more about the 4-Step Bootcamp
Not sure where to begin? Take the Free Quiz →
You know something has changed in you. You think about him more than you want to. You replay conversations. You check. You wait. You make decisions, then struggle to stick to them.
You've stopped trusting yourself.
And sometimes you look at the woman you've become in this situation and think: How did I get here?
And then comes another layer. Shame. Because maybe you're intelligent, capable, self-aware. Maybe you're usually the person other people come to for advice. And yet here you are.
You know it's a cycle. You're exhausted by it. But you're still stuck in it. That's the problem we work on here.
Hi, I'm Onye.
I'm a Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist, and Your Mind Story is my online practice.
And if part of you is thinking: I should have known better. I understand.
Before I found myself caught in this pattern, I was already professionally trained and had spent years learning about relationships, psychology and self-development. I still didn't see what it was doing to me.
You don't have to be stupid, weak or unaware to get caught in a pattern.
Once I understood that, my focus became clear: less time decoding him. More work helping you come back to you.
Understanding the cycle isn't the same as breaking it.
You can understand why he pulls away. You can recognise the pattern while it's happening. You can know exactly what you think you should do.
Knowing is not the same as changing.
If you're still checking, replaying, researching, waiting and second-guessing yourself, knowing hasn't changed your response to it. That's the part we work on. We call it being in the response.
What do you actually need?
To understand why you've responded the way you have without turning your experience into "what's wrong with me?" Understanding should give you somewhere to begin, not another reason to blame yourself.
Not another hundred videos about avoidant attachment. Practical psychological tools to work with the thoughts, behaviours and responses keeping the cycle going. This is where Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy comes in.
Because knowing what to do and being able to do it when you're caught in the cycle are not the same thing. You can work through the process privately, or choose support while you do it.
Less shame. The right tools. The right support. So you can break the cycle and take your life back.
Breaking the cycle doesn't mean I'm going to tell you to leave him. You may still be together. You may be apart but still caught in it. Or you may be recognising the pattern happening again.
Breaking the cycle isn't a relationship status. It's getting back to a place where his behaviour no longer runs your emotional world.
Where you can trust yourself. Where your choices feel like yours again. Where you are back at the centre of your own life. That's what take your life back means.
What women have told me.
Choose how you want to do the work.
The same 4-Step Bootcamp. Three ways to do the work.
Do the work privately, in your own time. The complete four-step journey to work through independently.
Learn more about Self-GuidedDo the work with support around you. The complete four-step journey plus live group support.
Learn more about Group SupportDo the work with me. The complete four-step journey with individual support.
Learn more about Private SupportNeed to work on one part first? Quiet the Alarm · Break the Pull · Restore Self Trust · Return to Yourself.
You don't need to diagnose yourself. Take the free quiz to identify where in the cycle your work may need to begin.
You don't need to know everything about him. You don't need to have everything figured out. And you don't need to decide the future of your relationship today.
You just need to decide whether you're ready to start coming back to yourself.
Break the cycle.
Take your life back.
Break the cycle.
Take your life back.
For women caught in the pattern of an avoidant relationship: whether you're in it, out of it but still caught, or seeing the pattern start again.
You may understand the cycle.
But you're still stuck in it.
We work on the checking, replaying, waiting and second-guessing that keep you caught in it, so you can feel steadier, trust yourself again and feel like yourself again.
Not sure where to begin? Take the Free Quiz →
5 stars on Google
Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist
You know something has changed in you. You think about him more than you want to. You replay conversations. You check. You wait. You make decisions, then struggle to stick to them.
You've stopped trusting yourself.
And sometimes you look at the woman you've become in this situation and think: How did I get here?
And then comes another layer. Shame. Because maybe you're intelligent, capable, self-aware. Maybe you're usually the person other people come to for advice. And yet here you are.
You know it's a cycle. You're exhausted by it. But you're still stuck in it. That's the problem we work on here.
Hi, I'm Onye.
I'm a Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist, and Your Mind Story is my online practice.
And if part of you is thinking: I should have known better. I understand.
Before I found myself caught in this pattern, I was already professionally trained and had spent years learning about relationships, psychology and self-development. I still didn't see what it was doing to me.
You don't have to be stupid, weak or unaware to get caught in a pattern.
Once I understood that, my focus became clear: less time decoding him. More work helping you come back to you.
Read my story →Understanding the cycle isn't the same as breaking it.
You can understand why he pulls away. You can recognise the pattern while it's happening. You can know exactly what you think you should do.
Knowing is not the same as changing.
If you're still checking, replaying, researching, waiting and second-guessing yourself, knowing hasn't changed your response to it. That's the part we work on. We call it being in the response.
What do you actually need?
To understand why you've responded the way you have without turning your experience into "what's wrong with me?" Understanding should give you somewhere to begin, not another reason to blame yourself.
Not another hundred videos about avoidant attachment. Practical psychological tools to work with the thoughts, behaviours and responses keeping the cycle going. This is where Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy comes in.
Because knowing what to do and being able to do it when you're caught in the cycle are not the same thing. You can work through the process privately, or choose support while you do it.
Less shame. The right tools. The right support. So you can break the cycle and take your life back.
Breaking the cycle doesn't mean I'm going to tell you to leave him. You may still be together. You may be apart but still caught in it. Or you may be recognising the pattern happening again.
Breaking the cycle isn't a relationship status. It's getting back to a place where his behaviour no longer runs your emotional world.
Where you can trust yourself. Where your choices feel like yours again. Where you are back at the centre of your own life. That's what take your life back means.
What women have told me.
Choose how you want to do the work.
The same 4-Step Bootcamp. Three ways to do the work.
Do the work privately, in your own time. The complete four-step journey to work through independently.
Learn more about Self-GuidedDo the work with support around you. The complete four-step journey plus live group support.
Learn more about Group SupportDo the work with me. The complete four-step journey with individual support.
Learn more about Private SupportNeed to work on one part first? Quiet the Alarm · Break the Pull · Restore Self Trust · Return to Yourself.
You don't need to diagnose yourself. Take the free quiz to identify where in the cycle your work may need to begin.
Take the Free QuizYou don't need to know everything about him. You don't need to have everything figured out. And you don't need to decide the future of your relationship today.
You just need to decide whether you're ready to start coming back to yourself.