Why This Happened
The avoidant no contact timeline.
Why doesn't he seem to miss me during no contact?
The avoidant no contact timeline looks nothing like a typical breakup. He looks completely fine, working out, posting, living like nothing happened, while you're checking your phone before you've even decided to, looking for a sign this is hurting him too.
It isn't hurting him yet. Because of emotional suppression, an avoidant partner experiences delayed grief, not a lack of real attachment.
Don't mistake his initial calm for the whole story. He processes on a different timeline than you do.
I can't change him. I can't bring him back. I can give you back your peace.
@dontsleepwithavoidantmen The avoidant no contact timeline is entirely different from a typical breakup. Because of emotional suppression, a partner with an avoidant attachment style experiences delayed grief. If you are struggling with the silence during a breakup, do not mistake their initial relief for a lack of real attachment. #nocontact #avoidantbreakup #avoidantattachment #breakupgrief ♬ Too Much - JAKK RINSE
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